I was pregnant at 14, and a mother at 15, and married at 16. Statistics show that teen mothers and teen marriage equals future poverty. I have read articles that read that Africans, blacks and Hispanics are the two largest populations that have teen pregnancy between the age of 15 and 19; and they think it was due to lack of education and poverty. Some say the mothers drop out of school, and of course college is not an option. Those articles also state that the babies are low birth rate, the boys are more likely to become incarcerated, and that these children born to teens will become teen parents themselves. They also suggest that the children born to teen parents will probably be high school drop outs and will more than likely not be college graduates.
Based on statistics, I guess I KNOW I beat the odds. I had my son at the age of 15 years old, got married at 16 years old, (dropped out when I was 17, ONLY to take the GED), and passed the GED and started college while my class was still in high school. Being married and having a child, I was able to be what is called an independent student and get the maximum amount of aid to pay for school. I had decided I wanted to become a RN and graduate from Northwestern State University, School of Nursing. Once I put my mind to something, its as good as done. I started at a community college and took a few classes, transferred to NSU, got pregnant then had another child (a daughter) at the age of 18 by my husband. He was in college, at La Tech, commuting and he was working, and we had help from our parents from time to time. Now I did become a statistic as it relates to divorce, after about 5 years. We were able to co-parent effectively for the sake of the children.
When I was 18, I bought a house, owner finance, and sometimes I worked part time at a hotel if money got short. This house was in a town where I had tons of family and tons of friends of family. I got into clinical, and a while later met my second husband, and had a child (another girl) right before my last semester of clinical. During the times of having children, sometimes I had to sit out for a semester. I became a RN, just as I planned. Second marriage didn’t last either, but this one is like a dream come true or a real life fairy tale. My son NEVER went to prison or was arrested, he worked for Ambit Electricity and was a security guard while going to college, and he was one of the best sons a mother could have. He had a motor cycle accident at the age of 21, on his first ride, in our neighborhood trying to practice how to ride. My eldest daughter was gifted from the age of 3, skipped a grade going into school, and was in the gifted and talented program throughout. She graduated at the top 8% of her class with a school of over 3700 students. She has won several awards in debate. She was 3 years younger than my son, but graduated 1 year behind him.
She started at UT in Austin at the age of 17, always makes straight As, and she is going to spend 2 months in Japan based on some scholarships she got for academic performance. She has NEVER been pregnant, has no children, and never been married. I also have my 15 year old, who is a very good student, makes good grades, wants to be a model and went to Paige Parkes Modeling School, and loves to dance and danced at the Wortham in Houston in 2016. I never lived in poverty before or after I was pregnant, I always made sure my children lived in a good neighborhood so my children could go to a good school, and I didn’t rely on just the education system to teach my children. I always made sure I spoke correct grammar to them, and they had to speak it back to me. They have NEVER seen poverty, and so far both of my children graduated high school with honors, and went to college. I have a BSN in Nursing from NSU. My next quest is Nurse Practitioner, and school starts in a few months.
I BEAT THE ODDS. MY CHILDREN BEAT THE ODDS. ANYONE CAN DO ANYTHING THAT THEY PUT THEIR MINDS TO. DONT EVER LET SOMEONE STEROTYPE YOU OR YOUR LIFE OR YOUR CHILDREN AS A STATISTIC. GOD ALWAYS HAS THE LAST SAY, AND HE WILL TAKE YOU ALL THE WAY.
By Carly James
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